Together for 11 years, married for 10, 6 year old child. He wouldn’t wear the ring, wouldn’t hold my hand or kiss me in public, wouldn’t talk to me at parties, was just a jerk, not a man. We would stand in front of the mirror, naked, and he would only look at his own body and say what a great body he’s got. And just out of boredom I joined an online dating site and started talking to a few people. He was interesting and showing a huge interest in me, in how I felt, etc. And when he stood behind me, put his arms around me and held me really strong and rubbed me for 10 minutes, I didn’t want this moment to end and almost cried. We’ve been seeing each other since then and started to want to see each other more and more. But I feel absolutely NO physical attraction any more. I agreed to give him a chance and promised to stop any contact with my ‘boyfriend’. I don’t want to go through a divorce because of the child but then, should I stay unhappy? It’s so frustrating, and when I talk to young people, or even people considering second marriage, I tell them to look at the person’s parents because that is what their husband or wife will most likely turn into.
This is especially true if the dating spouse begins cohabitating with their new partner during the divorce process.Dating while going through a divorce can have a number of negative effects on the divorce proceedings, both in court and emotionally.