Beijing dating scene
Living as I do in a city as vibrant and bizarre as Beijing has its good points – and its bad.
Even if a guy has a girlfriend or wife, it often doesn’t keep him from going after other women.The women of Beijing come from all over the country, drawn for professional opportunity and a more exciting life, and the city is full of sophisticated, successful women with high standards.Men are usually expected to buy an apartment before marriage – this tends to be a cost for the man’s family as a whole to bear, another reason male births are no longer seen as the be all and end all.Dating is traditional in the Western sense – the man is supposed to pay, bring a small gift, and perhaps take the woman home before heading home himself.
He’d better buy flowers and spring for a classy dinner on Valentine’s Day (as well as on the traditional Chinese equivalent, Qixi (in August; the date varies year-to-year based on the lunar calendar), but in Beijing the Western version is considered more important by most people).
And they agree with the women, Beijing is not a relationship place. The typical notion of dating, meaning going out for dinner or a movie, having a drink afterwards, talking and some kissing, maybe even repeat before having sex, that kind of dating does not seem a common occurrence in Beijing.